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/I am reminded of the many helpful methods in which we can relinquish the cruel mind:
Read MoreI am reminded of the many helpful methods in which we can relinquish the cruel mind:
Read More…we can all benefit from adopting skills that help us manage stress.
Read MoreWith practice and awareness, we can learn to step back and recognise that this is a need that doesn’t serve us and let it go.
Read MoreIf you are finding that you’re forgetting the names of people you know, why you went into a room, what you were talking about mid sentence, if you’re unable to find a word, feeling empty headed or confused, you are not alone. Brain fog effects many women during peri-menopause and menopause but for most, it will pass.
I recently attended an educational workshop on menopause with functional medicine practitioner, Tanya Borowski who is exceptionally knowledgeable. I am also reading a book called Hormone Repair Manual by Lara Briden. These two sources suggest ideas that may help you keep your brain healthy:
Oestrogen therapy. To really benefit, we would be better starting it 5 years before our final period or at menopause at the latest. If the average age of menopause is 51, the best time to start is 46. Neuroscientist Roberta Diaz Brinton suggests in Briden’s book, that taken after menopause, oestrogen therapy may actually contribute to dementia, however more research is needed.
Progesterone is also important for brain health. It supports GABA receptors in the brain. GABA is a mood enhancing neurotransmitter. Together oestrogen and progesterone support many brain functions, including the hippocampus (the memory centre) so it is worth discussing a combination of hormones with your health practitioner when considering HRT.
Diet and lifestyle. Tanya Borowski, says we cannot simply replace hormones without adapting our lifestyle. Both Briden and Borowski recommend that you:
• Reverse insulin resistance (with a Ketone diet).
• Soothe your nervous system.
• Develop healthy sleep habits.
• Minimise alcohol and drink more water.
• Engage in movement of any kind but strength training in particular.
• Take supplements - in particular magnesium and taurine, B12, choline and MCT oil.
The good news from the perspective of Yoga and Mindfulness is that many of the practices we engage in at Birchwood Yoga support brain function. GABA receptors are usually supported by progesterone so when this hormone is lost, we experience raised levels of anxiety and stress. Research by Chris Streeter et al, shows that GABA is released when we practice Yoga. GABA helps promote relaxation and reduces stress, anxiety and even symptoms of PMS according to Lisa Mosconi, author of The XX Brain. Meditation improves brain structure and function and the pace of Slow Mindful Yoga helps build physical strength and mental resilience. In combination with the breathing practices and long savasanas your nervous system gets soothed. Win, win!
Stress comes in many guises so it’s important to understand what might trigger symptoms.
Read MoreAcute stress, chronic stress and burnout are three separate states of stress. It’s important to know what they are so you know how to respond.
Read MoreI was so impressed by the body’s ability to rest when supported in the right way,
Read MoreOur ability to adapt to different situations depends very much on the individual. Some of us have a sensitive nervous system that requires nurturing. Others are more robust. The condition of our nervous system is determined to a degree by how stressed our mother was when we were in vitro but is also down to the amount of trauma and stress we have experienced in our life.
When we encounter a stressor, every system in our body responds. In order to return to a state of equilibrium (homeostasis), the nervous and endocrine systems have to adapt. We can help our internal recovery along by building mental strength and flexibility. Having a better understanding of ourselves promotes adaptability.
Write a list of circumstances which make you feel uncomfortable such as confrontation, being in a crowded space, driving on the motorway, meeting new people etc... Nothing triggering. As you write each one down, pause and notice how you feel in your body. What are the sensations? Where are they felt? Notice and be curious. Try not to analyse or push them away.
Now visualise the same scenarios differently:
Breathe deep down into your belly.
See yourself with your shoulders rolled back, your chest open and your head straight.
Clench your fists gently. Does that help you to feel more powerful? If it fuels anger, instead of pushing it away, notice where you feel it and how?
Feel your feet on the ground and ‘root’ down.
What other physical posture could you take?
Make a positive affirmation such as, ‘I can do this’, or ‘I’ve got this.’
Write down how you feel. Check in with your mind, body and breath. You may find it helpful to practice this visualisation before every situation with which you are uncomfortable.
Low level stress actually helps us to adapt. Each time we cope with an uncomfortable situation, we feel empowered and become more resilient physiologically and mentally. To strengthen your ability to adapt:
Step out of your comfort zone regularly.
Notice, change and notice the change.
Remember that thoughts are not facts.
Never base your present fears on past experience; no two situations are the same.
Be prepared to bend your own rules be more flexible; your way isn’t the only way.
Acceptance empowers you.
Do not allow failure to stop you. We learn from our mistakes.
Here are some other tools which you may find helpful:
Slow down - taking life at a slower pace allows us be aware of our experience and to recuperate from the challenges.
Keep a journal - writing down our feelings helps put things into perspective.
Practice gratitude - the brain has a negativity bias so force yourself to recollect the positives.
Spend time in nature regularly; it is proven to calm and ground us.
If you feel you need some support on your journey, I’m here to help. Why not book a Clarity Call and we can chat confidentially about how to take you forwards.
One of the best things about Yoga is becoming more self aware. But is it possible to become too self aware? Self awareness can sometimes be perceived as narcissism. I think there are levels of self awareness, with disassociation at one end and narcissism at the other. In the middle is a healthy balance. So how do you get there?
Disassociation is common when you have spent your life trying to avoid painful feelings; likely from a traumatic experience or chronic stress. The brain’s way of protecting you from the pain is to keep the body in freeze mode and prevent you from feeling. To move beyond this may require talking therapy but at some point we need to connect with the physical feelings in the body. The process can be slow and disquieting but with safety measures in place, the end result is knowing yourself, understanding what these feelings mean and being resourced with skills to manage overwhelm and restore homeostasis.
If we navigate this road mindfully, we can find that middle ground. We can recognise what the body and mind require before it becomes overwhelming and if it does (which it will; life has a way of throwing us a curve ball sometimes), we can learn to be with the experience, not to resist it.
We move into narcissism when we over analyse; spend too much time wondering why we experience one feeling or another and endlessly talking about it. It’s a bit like googling every symptom you have and believing you are ill; the modern form of hypochondria and it’s boring for everyone around you. I know, I’ve been there! And you might too if you’ve been mentally unwell. It’s part of the natural process of getting to know yourself again. The important thing is recognising when to back off and return to the middle ground.
The beauty of being self aware is in the wisdom of the body. When you stay present to your experience, the body will guide you. When I get on my mat, I let my body and my energy guide me to where it needs to go. With support, time and practice, you can too. It’s an amazing place to be and very rewarding too!
Nature has the ability to restore connection and balance of mind…
Read MoreThe more we dampen our stress hormones, the easier it is to sleep.
Read MoreMy mental health has stabilised, my moods have stabilised, my hormones seem to have stabilised.
Read MoreThe reason I am so calm is because I have just spent time in nature, breathing it in and communing with my tree…
Read MoreThe reality was, I was stressed, burnt out and chronically fatigued…
Read MoreIt only has to take one event to trigger a complete change in your breathing habit. You might always have breathed in your belly (although you were probably not aware of this), then one day you were traumatised by a major stressor. This could be anything that put you into an immediate stress response, from a traumatic event to being yelled at. How your body responds is what is important here.
Commonly with the stress response, your breath shifts from belly to chest. You want to pull air into your lungs so that oxygen can be sent to your heart rapidly, enabling you to fight or flee from the threat. In a healthy system, once the threat is over, the stress response is switched off and breathing returns to the belly.
In modern society where we are constantly under threat on a psychological and physiological basis, the stress response can be triggered again and again in a single day. So what happens? The breath gets stuck in your chest and whether you feel stressed or not, your body thinks you are and keeps you in the stress response.
With so much threat around us, how do we know that we are stuck in the stress response? There are too many signs to list, but here are some things to look out for:
Being easily startled.
Constant doing - restlessness.
Eyes darting around.
Constant chatter.
Rushing.
Low pain tolerance.
Consistent tension in the back of the skull, jaw, neck or shoulders.
Feeling regularly overwhelmed.
Sensory overload - sensitivity to light and sound in particular.
Over-thinking and spending too much time in the head.
Consistent chest breathing and pulling of the breath.
Mouth breathing.
Difficulty with concentration and focus.
Listlessness, exhaustion or fatigue.
Sound familiar? Whatever you do, DON’T carry on as you are! Stress is not your friend. The stress hormones that are constantly rampaging around your body can do serious damage to your health. Now is the time to implement self care.
If you find that your mind is busy, busy, busy, you might need to begin with movement. A simple routine like the cat sequence I frequently teach can be a good place to begin. Don’t worry about the breathing but do notice the contact your body has with the floor.
If you are overwhelmed, begin at your feet. Notice them, feel them on the ground and if that is difficult, massage them so that you really feel the sensations in your feet. Squeezing the arms and legs can be useful if you feel disconnected from yourself.
If you can cope with stillness, concentrate on your breath. Sound is the easiest way of making the shift from chest breathing to belly breathing. It doesn’t matter what it is but you could try, sss, fff, ahh, brr. Sound that can loosen a tense jaw is brilliant!
Practice breathing through your nose as often as possible. It took a single event to alter your breath; it is possible to change it back within 24 hours. It just takes practice. Mouth breathing or shallow breathing reduces the amount of Carbon Dioxide (CO2) you take in. CO2 is necessary for vaso-dilation (dilating your blood vessels) which allows for oxygen uptake. Without this, blood vessels constrict which means the flow of blood is slowed leading to potential complications. Red blood cells hang on to oxygen when CO2 is low, therefore the body’s cells are not receiving enough oxygen to thrive.
If after reading this you start to panic, STOP! This is life and you are not alone. Stuff gets in the way of self care. But now you understand the importance of taking time for yourself and addressing the issue, begin where you are.
If you need support on your journey, do get in touch.
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